You may look back on the past and have regrets but having regrets is not going to change what happened and the consequences that resulted from what happened, you just fell bad about the event. You may as well laugh about it as have regret, however, you feel will not change history.
Regrets about the past just create anxiety, depression or other negative emotions in your life today. This can make your life a misery and this negatively can affect those you love, your work and social life.
The person who did those things in your past is a different person today. Now you have lived through different experiences, have new knowledge, wisdom, and insights. You didn’t have the resourcefulness back then that you have today. People do the best they can with the knowledge and insight and emotional intelligence that they possess at the moment of decision.
Making mistakes is a normal part of life that help us grow and learn. Without stretching ourselves and making mistakes, we stay within our comfort zone and don’t take on challenges for the growth necessary to reach our full potential in life.
Learn from experiences and make that learning building blocks in your growth. So, forgive yourself for mistakes that you have made, move forward and get on with life.
Nothing is achieved without failure at some point along life’s journey. If you take the easy road to avoid failure you are to have a lot a life of regrets of what might have been in life had you embraced the possibility of failure.
The people who live successful lives with no regrets are those who fall down but keep getting up again. This process is called learning. You must have the courage to live a life true to yourself and not allow the opinions or criticism of others rob you of your dreams. You are the person who has to walk in your shoes.
People on their death bed don’t regret what they tried and ended in failure, they regret what they didn’t do, what they didn’t try. It is good to see life as a game just like games in sport, you win some and you lose some. The excitement is in playing the game and the challenge of winning, then learning from the mistakes when you lose and giving yourself a better opportunity to win the next game.
A great question Steve Jobs asked himself.
“If today were the last day of my life, would I wanna do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer is no for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something”