Can we change other people?

All change is self-change, nobody can change us and we cannot change anyone else. However, we influence how others think and behave. We are always reacting to the people and circumstances around us and when people and circumstances change, we…

Have no regrets

You may look back on the past and have regrets but having regrets is not going to change what happened and the consequences that resulted from what happened, you just fell bad about the event. You may as well laugh…

Become a positive person

There is an objective reality and a subjective reality. The objective reality is what is actually happening in our lives, the subjective reality is the way we perceive that reality. In other words, the way we perceptually and emotionally respond…

Embrace painful feelings

You want to feel the good feelings but avoid painful ones? This is what we have learned to do. However, this modern approach to feelings does not serve people well and is likely to lead to suffering. Avoidance techniques can…

Live in the now

Living in the past or in the future deprives you of being present in the moment. 95% of unhappiness is caused not by what is happening in the now but what has happened in the past or you imagine may…

Why we fail

What separates the people who are winning from those who fail to achieve their goals? It has nothing to do with luck or fate. It is the resistance one holds to one’s goal. People are not aware of the resistance…